Brene Brown studies vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame.
Why you should listen to her:
Brene Brown is a research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work. She has spent the past ten years studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame. She spent the first five years of her decade-long study focusing on shame and empathy, and is now using that work to explore a concept that she calls Wholeheartedness. She poses the questions:
How do we learn to embrace our vulnerabilities and imperfections so that we can engage in our lives from a place of authenticity and worthiness? How do we cultivate the courage, compassion, and connection that we need to recognize that we are enough – that we are worthy of love, belonging, and joy?
"And you know how I feel about vulnerability. I hate vulnerability. And so I thought, this is my chance to beat it back with my measuring stick. I'm going in, I'm going to figure this stuff out, I'm going to spend a year, I'm going to totally deconstruct shame, I'm going to understand how vulnerability works, and I'm going to outsmart it. So I was ready, and I was really excited. As you know, it's not going to turn out well. (Laughter) You know this." Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability on TED TV
"I kind of understood, this is what shame is, this is how it works. I wrote a book, I published a theory, but something was not okay -- and what it was is that, if I roughly took the people I interviewed and divided them into people who really have a sense of worthiness -- that's what this comes down to, a sense of worthiness -- they have a strong sense of love and belonging -- and folks who struggle for it, and folks who are always wondering if their good enough. There was only one variable that separated the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging and the people who really struggle for it. And that was, the people who have a strong sense of love and belonging believe they're worthy of love and belonging. That's it. They believe they're worthy. And to me, the hard part of the one thing that keeps us out of connection is our fear that we're not worthy of connection, was something that, personally and professionally, I felt like I needed to understand better. So what I did is I took all of the interviews where I saw worthiness, where I saw people living that way, and just looked at those.
What do these people have in common? I have a slight office supply addiction, but that's another talk. So I had a manila folder, and I had a Sharpie, and I was like, what am I going to call this research? And the first words that came to my mind were whole-hearted. These are whole-hearted people, living from this deep sense of worthiness." Brene Brown: The Power of Vulnerability on TED TV
WOW what a great way to start the month of February! How about you...are you living whole-heartedly? Do you have a deep sense of worthiness?
When I first started watching this video, I immediately thought about another blogger Susan. of Between Naps on the Porch blogspot and when she posted here about her recent retirement from being a Social Worker. Then as I listened/watched I starting thinking about kelly rae roberts, who was also a Social Worker turned Artist. Especially because kelly rae has always talked/posted about being fearless, about embracing her vulnerability and exposing herself during this entire process. Also because of the way kelly rae has always had deep connections with her lovebomb friends...SO I just about freaked when I saw THIS SLIDE at the end of Brene's presentation...
Photo Credit: Tracey Clark blog: What Must be Said blogspot August 23, 2009
THEN realized that this is THE one and the same Brene Brown...aka lovebomb courage...aka Ordinary Courage blogger! DUH...I should have know this since I've read kelly rae's blog for years, taken her Flying Lessons e-course AND I've also participated in the Mondo Beyondo's DREAM BIG e-course. Too funny and now I'm glad to have seen Brene on TED TV and to be able to connect the dots ;)
How about you...are you ready to exposure yourself and live and love with your whole heart?
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